In honor of this weekend’s Super Bowl I thought we’d have our own game - Wifey vs. JumpOff…
Growing up every girl has dreams of being “Wifey” and quickly looks down on the mere thought of being a “JumpOff.” Have you ever sat down and thought about what’s right for you - the life of a “Wifey” or that of a “JumpOff”? Living in a world of quick, fast and in a hurry – how do you steer clear from being labeled a “JumpOff”? Better yet - does living your life as a potential “Wifey” pay off in the end?
During my journey there were times and moments I could have easily chosen the “JumpOff” route. Of course everyone wants to be loved or be the center of attention, but at what price? There were times I could have went home with a dude who bought me drinks, grooved with me at the club, or showed some interest in me, but again at what cost? According to the Urban Dictionary the definition of a “JumpOff” is a female who is available anytime, anyplace and for anytype of sexual encounter. I’m sure we all know a jump-off, may have one in the crew or ourselves have dabbled in the world of jump-off-ness. Whatever your case maybe – it’s about that time to ix-nay the jump-off-ness in our lives! In order to stay clear of jump-off-ness it’s important to know what you want in life and how to get what you want in life without losing yourself in the process. Any female can sleep their way into someone’s life, but how are you honestly treated after the fact? Do you spend holidays with their families? Are you the one he spends his late nights talking you to sleep? Even worse are you the one he calls after he puts his potential “wifey” to sleep? Of course no one wants to admit teasing the world of a “JumpOff” but I had to sit down and really think about times I was on the brink of jump-off-ness and remind myself to stay far away from that world!
“Wifey” a woman you treat right, respect and feel good having her as your girl. A girl you care a lot about, a real lady and sexy in every way possible. My personal new definition of “wifey” is the “…if you like it then you shoulda’ put a ring on it…” girl in your life. And of course the ultimate post “wifey” is the one with the rock on her finger! For the most part I’ve always considered myself “Wifey” material. In the majority of my relationships – I’m always working an angle to be a post “Wifey.” Maybe why I’ve ran so many boys away HA HA! I was so frustrated with boys; there was even a point in my life where I thought marriage was unnecessary. I figured everyone cheats and why go through all that trouble just to flash on a negro cause he's acting stupid? Having Madison gave me a new outlook on the whole marriage thingy. I don’t think I’ll beat it in her brain or stress it too much, but I do want her to have healthy dating experiences and have the whole fairy tale romance when it’s her time. So in order to be a “wifey” I think it becomes imperative to steer clear of any “JumpOff” tendencies. Of course it can be exciting to gallivant around the world with random dudes, but you gotta ask yourself – what am I truly paying for this moment? I can’t say for sure, but my hypothesis would be the only thing your doing is making a name for yourself and a not-so-nice one at that for example: the cali- jumpoff, the down ass jumpoff or worse the down for whatever jumpoff. Is being associated as a “JumpOff” really worth the pipe, the 5-minutes of fame or the rush you get kicking it with these dudes? Is it worth losing yourself and waking up one day exposed to a sexually transmitted disease?
And of course our good ole’ Men do not make it any better – they say one thing and do the complete opposite! Men say they want to date a female with potential “Wifey” material and will only bring a potential “Wifey” home to meet their momma. Men talk bad about “JumpOffs,” disrespect them, treat them like a step-child and keep them at arm’s length when it comes to the important moments in their lives. So what is it? What do men really want? Is the “JumpOff” sex so good they can’t leave it alone? Do men hope their future “Wifey” will wait patiently while they poke every broad walking? How long is too long – when your waiting for a man to decide if your post “wifey” material? Of course no one has the answers to these questions so let the games continue…but what’s a girl to do?
So who’s your pick? “Wifey” vs. “JumpOff”????
Growing up every girl has dreams of being “Wifey” and quickly looks down on the mere thought of being a “JumpOff.” Have you ever sat down and thought about what’s right for you - the life of a “Wifey” or that of a “JumpOff”? Living in a world of quick, fast and in a hurry – how do you steer clear from being labeled a “JumpOff”? Better yet - does living your life as a potential “Wifey” pay off in the end?
During my journey there were times and moments I could have easily chosen the “JumpOff” route. Of course everyone wants to be loved or be the center of attention, but at what price? There were times I could have went home with a dude who bought me drinks, grooved with me at the club, or showed some interest in me, but again at what cost? According to the Urban Dictionary the definition of a “JumpOff” is a female who is available anytime, anyplace and for anytype of sexual encounter. I’m sure we all know a jump-off, may have one in the crew or ourselves have dabbled in the world of jump-off-ness. Whatever your case maybe – it’s about that time to ix-nay the jump-off-ness in our lives! In order to stay clear of jump-off-ness it’s important to know what you want in life and how to get what you want in life without losing yourself in the process. Any female can sleep their way into someone’s life, but how are you honestly treated after the fact? Do you spend holidays with their families? Are you the one he spends his late nights talking you to sleep? Even worse are you the one he calls after he puts his potential “wifey” to sleep? Of course no one wants to admit teasing the world of a “JumpOff” but I had to sit down and really think about times I was on the brink of jump-off-ness and remind myself to stay far away from that world!
“Wifey” a woman you treat right, respect and feel good having her as your girl. A girl you care a lot about, a real lady and sexy in every way possible. My personal new definition of “wifey” is the “…if you like it then you shoulda’ put a ring on it…” girl in your life. And of course the ultimate post “wifey” is the one with the rock on her finger! For the most part I’ve always considered myself “Wifey” material. In the majority of my relationships – I’m always working an angle to be a post “Wifey.” Maybe why I’ve ran so many boys away HA HA! I was so frustrated with boys; there was even a point in my life where I thought marriage was unnecessary. I figured everyone cheats and why go through all that trouble just to flash on a negro cause he's acting stupid? Having Madison gave me a new outlook on the whole marriage thingy. I don’t think I’ll beat it in her brain or stress it too much, but I do want her to have healthy dating experiences and have the whole fairy tale romance when it’s her time. So in order to be a “wifey” I think it becomes imperative to steer clear of any “JumpOff” tendencies. Of course it can be exciting to gallivant around the world with random dudes, but you gotta ask yourself – what am I truly paying for this moment? I can’t say for sure, but my hypothesis would be the only thing your doing is making a name for yourself and a not-so-nice one at that for example: the cali- jumpoff, the down ass jumpoff or worse the down for whatever jumpoff. Is being associated as a “JumpOff” really worth the pipe, the 5-minutes of fame or the rush you get kicking it with these dudes? Is it worth losing yourself and waking up one day exposed to a sexually transmitted disease?
And of course our good ole’ Men do not make it any better – they say one thing and do the complete opposite! Men say they want to date a female with potential “Wifey” material and will only bring a potential “Wifey” home to meet their momma. Men talk bad about “JumpOffs,” disrespect them, treat them like a step-child and keep them at arm’s length when it comes to the important moments in their lives. So what is it? What do men really want? Is the “JumpOff” sex so good they can’t leave it alone? Do men hope their future “Wifey” will wait patiently while they poke every broad walking? How long is too long – when your waiting for a man to decide if your post “wifey” material? Of course no one has the answers to these questions so let the games continue…but what’s a girl to do?
So who’s your pick? “Wifey” vs. “JumpOff”????
3 comments:
OMG! you said it girl... i chose not to be the Jumpoff girl and so far so good. im not a wifey (again) yet. But, good things come to those who wait and put God first. Better late then never. And, for all of those "jumpoffs" its never too late to become wifey material. One day at a time...
Please do NOT get me started on this. I feel like Wifey always gets shafted. And as far as what these boys want...*psht* hell, they don't know.
I'm shocked; this is absolutely unbelievable! I guess I've spent my life as a dreamer.
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