Thursday, January 29, 2009

Our Superbowl I...Wifey vs. JumpOff

In honor of this weekend’s Super Bowl I thought we’d have our own game - Wifey vs. JumpOff
Growing up every girl has dreams of being “Wifey” and quickly looks down on the mere thought of being a “JumpOff.” Have you ever sat down and thought about what’s right for you - the life of a “Wifey” or that of a “JumpOff”? Living in a world of quick, fast and in a hurry – how do you steer clear from being labeled a “JumpOff”? Better yet - does living your life as a potential “Wifey” pay off in the end?
During my journey there were times and moments I could have easily chosen the “JumpOff” route. Of course everyone wants to be loved or be the center of attention, but at what price? There were times I could have went home with a dude who bought me drinks, grooved with me at the club, or showed some interest in me, but again at what cost? According to the Urban Dictionary the definition of a JumpOff” is a female who is available anytime, anyplace and for anytype of sexual encounter. I’m sure we all know a jump-off, may have one in the crew or ourselves have dabbled in the world of jump-off-ness. Whatever your case maybe – it’s about that time to ix-nay the jump-off-ness in our lives! In order to stay clear of jump-off-ness it’s important to know what you want in life and how to get what you want in life without losing yourself in the process. Any female can sleep their way into someone’s life, but how are you honestly treated after the fact? Do you spend holidays with their families? Are you the one he spends his late nights talking you to sleep? Even worse are you the one he calls after he puts his potential “wifey” to sleep? Of course no one wants to admit teasing the world of a “JumpOff” but I had to sit down and really think about times I was on the brink of jump-off-ness and remind myself to stay far away from that world!
Wifey” a woman you treat right, respect and feel good having her as your girl. A girl you care a lot about, a real lady and sexy in every way possible. My personal new definition of “wifey” is the “…if you like it then you shoulda’ put a ring on it…” girl in your life. And of course the ultimate post “wifey” is the one with the rock on her finger! For the most part I’ve always considered myself “Wifey” material. In the majority of my relationships – I’m always working an angle to be a post “Wifey.” Maybe why I’ve ran so many boys away HA HA! I was so frustrated with boys; there was even a point in my life where I thought marriage was unnecessary. I figured everyone cheats and why go through all that trouble just to flash on a negro cause he's acting stupid? Having Madison gave me a new outlook on the whole marriage thingy. I don’t think I’ll beat it in her brain or stress it too much, but I do want her to have healthy dating experiences and have the whole fairy tale romance when it’s her time. So in order to be a “wifey” I think it becomes imperative to steer clear of any “JumpOff” tendencies. Of course it can be exciting to gallivant around the world with random dudes, but you gotta ask yourself – what am I truly paying for this moment? I can’t say for sure, but my hypothesis would be the only thing your doing is making a name for yourself and a not-so-nice one at that for example: the cali- jumpoff, the down ass jumpoff or worse the down for whatever jumpoff. Is being associated as a “JumpOff” really worth the pipe, the 5-minutes of fame or the rush you get kicking it with these dudes? Is it worth losing yourself and waking up one day exposed to a sexually transmitted disease?
And of course our good ole’ Men do not make it any better – they say one thing and do the complete opposite! Men say they want to date a female with potential “Wifey” material and will only bring a potential “Wifey” home to meet their momma. Men talk bad about “JumpOffs,” disrespect them, treat them like a step-child and keep them at arm’s length when it comes to the important moments in their lives. So what is it? What do men really want? Is the “JumpOff” sex so good they can’t leave it alone? Do men hope their future “Wifey” will wait patiently while they poke every broad walking? How long is too long – when your waiting for a man to decide if your post “wifey” material? Of course no one has the answers to these questions so let the games continue…but what’s a girl to do?
So who’s your pick? “Wifey” vs. “JumpOff”????

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

The 5th C

I was introduced to the 4 C’s (cut, carat, clarity, color) of diamonds in high school (thanks to my bff - Sasha). Since then I have known exactly what I want in my 4 C’s. My 4 C’s were so important to me I carried a picture of MY diamond in my wallet and anyone, who asked – not only caught a glimpse of my diamond, but were told I would accept nothing less!


My first time away from home I was introduced to a 5th C. When I met the 5th C - I didn't feel it was a priority, didn't take it seriously and didn't realize its potential impact on my future. Can you guess what the 5th C is? Here’s some hints: everyone has it, it may be good, bad or fair, it makes a big difference when making major purchases, it’s like your virginity (once it’s gone it’s gone forever), it can be hard to get back and it follows you wherever you go.
Do you have any ideas?
It’s your CREDIT our new 5th C!
CREDIT! Yes – I said CREDIT!
It's the one thing I have - I wish I could trade it in or upgrade it; better yet if I would’ve listened to Rondada. Before leaving for college she sat me down and had a talk with me, “Remember who you are, make good choices, stay focused and DO NOT - DO NOT come home with a baby or CREDIT CARDS.” I did great with the baby part, but everything else she told me went in one ear and out the other.
Credit is who you are, what you have and what you could have or have access to. Credit can define your lifestyle and the lifestyle of our future families. AS for me my credit needs to be buried in the depths of hell-ion! All the credit counseling agencies, waiting 7 years for items to fall off and paying the hustle man to get items removed are all – boloney!
In recent years I’ve finally realized (even though I didn’t want to) how my choices or non-choices have affected my credit. I treated my credit like a step-child or better yet like a person I saw every day, but had NO feelings for! And now it’s time to make amends - as a matter of fact I’m making credit my new FDBD (freak daddy baby daddy). I’m going to treat my credit better than any man who’s crossed my love land. I’m going to love, cherish, make good memories, give rub-down/massages and do whatever I need to keep my CREDIT happy!
For all you responsible SESSY’s out there YOU GO GIRLS! I am so envious of your responsibility in paying bills on time, learning to juggle payments in just the right way, saying “no” (to whatever your vice may be i.e. shoes, clothes, trips, more clothes, paying other bills, etc.,). You are the official credit queens of the crew!

“Lovely face, nice thick thighs. Plus she got drive that matches my
drive. Sexy thang. She’s McFly. All the while payin’ her bills on time.”
–Neyo
“She’ll buy her own I don’t think she’ll never
look In a man’s face standing waiting for him to take care of her. She’ll rather
go to work and pay the bills on schedule.” –Webbie

I have a new man, a secret lover, a FDBD, a ride or die boo - my CREDIT!

I love you CREDIT! I will take care of you CREDIT! I will do my best to make our relationship what it was CREDIT!
Watch out world – COCO and CREDIT are the hottest new couple of 2009!

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Weight waits for No One


The beginning of each year we can usually find ourselves setting goals, pumping ourselves up to start working on those goals & eventually achieving our goals or falling short. Every year my personal favorite goal is going on a DIET & EXERCISING! Of course 2009 is no different my #1 goal is to wake up one morning and catch a glimpse of my Beyonce-J.Lo mix'd body in the mirror & smile (and for my Nicki a lil piece of Mariah too)!

My 1st step toward my goal was joining Weight Watchers, attending a weekly meeting, watching what I eat & get some type of exercise in at least 3x/week. This time around I am SO motivated to lose weight: 1) especially after my lil bundle of joy (aka Madison) helped me pack on some extra pounds last year, 2) since turning 30 I've realized my body isn't snapping back like it used to, 3) i can't eat taco bell everyday like I used to & still be cute and 4) I want to be a SESSY MOMMY!

With any goal it's always nice to have a support system, but especially when your on a serious weight loss movement. So if you want to get healthy, eat better, sqeeze in some exercise and bring your SESSY back - let's do it together!

If I Lost 1lb each week in 2009

By Valentine's Day I'd be 6lbs lighter!
I'm telling you - I'm loving it!
By St. Patrick's Day I'd be 11lbs lighter
With the luck-o-the Irish I'll make my goal!
By Easter I'd be 14lbs lighter!
I'd be a cuter bunny!
By Memorial Day I'd be 21lbs lighter!
Boy, could I wave my flag then!
By Independence Day I'd be 25lbs lighter!
That's a neat declaration of independence from overeating!
By Labor Day I'd be 34lbs lighter!
What a wonderful reward for all my hard work!
By Columbus Day I'd be 40lbs lighter!
What a joy to discover what I can do!
By Halloween I'd be 43lbs lighter!
I didn't think I'd have a ghost of a chance!
By Thanksgiving I'd be 47lbs lighter!
I'd have so much to be thankful for!
By Christmas Eve I'd be 51lbs lighter!
Talk about being merry!
By New Year's Eve I'd be 52lbs lighter!
It's not just a new year, it's a NEW ME!!!

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

A Part of History


Today January 20, 2009 we are all living a moment of history - a part of our history we can share with our children (or soon-to-be kiddies for my SESSY single ladies). It gives me such a warm feeling that later today a wonderful man will do his best to run our country. In no way do I think an easy task lies ahead of our new president, but I feel he has the tools to do what needs to be done. I love to see the eyes of young African American boys light up as they see a man like themselves, their brothers and their fathers in the greatest leadership role of our country!


Like Obama believed in HOPE and CHANGE we too need to believe in HOPE and CHANGE for our personal lives. As women we need to HOPE for all those things we daydream about or want for our lives. "Hope – Hope in the face of difficulty. Hope in the face of uncertainty. The audacity of hope! In the end, that is God’s greatest gift to us, the bedrock of this nation. A belief in things not seen. A belief that there are better days ahead." -Barack Obama


Once we get the HOPE part down - it's time for CHANGE. CHANGE will come in different forms for each of us -- we may need to change the way we live, the people we spend our time with, the decisions we make, the food we eat, a love interest, or the time we do or do not spend with our higher power. "Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek." -Barack Obama


A few more quotes from Barack Obama which require us to think about life & how to live your best life..

  • We need to internalize this idea of excellence. Not many folks spend a lot of time trying to be excellent.

  • If you're walking down the right path and you're willing to keep walking, eventually you'll make progress.

  • We need to steer clear of this poverty of ambition, where people want to drive fancy cars and wear nice clothes and live in nice apartments but don't want to work hard to accomplish these things. Everyone should try to realize their full potential.

  • It's not just enough to change the players. We've gotta change the game

Of course our lives will not miraculously evolve over night, but with a little hard work, focus & determination - the CHANGE we HOPE for is possible!



Monday, January 19, 2009

*sidenote*

I just had to share how excited I am about this blog! Not only does it give me something to do late night when I can't go to sleep, but it helps me get all my crazy thoughts together and do something productive with them. So once again I hope you enjoy this as much as I do, but if you don't -- then a big whatever to you cause now your a certified hoochie ;-}.

While watching my favorite MTV Jams this video came on & it took me way back so of course I wanted to share with my SESSY's!


Jodeci - Come & Talk To Me (Remix) - Jodeci

I Need an Eraser!

The Gift of an Eraser

A New Year is upon us,
fresh goals are being set;
But doubts and fears still linger
From past ones we haven’t met.

Erase away those doubts and fears
That you will not succeed.
Commitment and a positive attitude
are really all you need.

You have it in you to reach your goal
Of that I have no fear.
So “erase” those mistakes and look ahead
to a new beginning for a new year.

Please take an eraser
To help you create a clean slate.
Wipe away doubts, fears & failures,
In 2009 you’re going to do GREAT!
Come on girls - start looking for that one yellow pencil you have laying around with that red eraser and cut it off. And NOOOO we're not using the eraser to replace the earring back you lost (don't even think about acting like u don't know what I'm talking about - i know some of you got some east-side running deep in u)
Let's grab our erasers and start 2009 fresh (we're all good its only 19 days in)!

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Here we go...

Saturday night (actually early Sunday morning) as Madison was fast asleep and I was watching a bad copy of the "Notorious" boot leg I had the brilliant idea to start a blog for US ;-)

And US means all of US -- you, me and the rest of you hoochies! I know your thinking "...great Ally not one more thing to read while at work or home, but too bad -- YES IT IS -- one more thing to read!"

My hope for Live Your Best Life is a place where we can share our opinions, successes, hurts and all the juicy/non-juicy lives we live everyday. Though, most importantly in the end support one another as we each continue to LIVE OUR BEST LIFE.

2009 is our year...its our turn to do big things with our lives (indivudally, collectively and spiritually focusing on career, relationships, etc., )...
  • Put God (or your higher being) 1st
  • Demand more
  • Think BIG
  • Too Blessed Too be Stressed
  • Decisions Determine Destiny
  • Our money has got to grow up
  • Keep Hustlin'
  • Don't Just be the Best - be the Best Ever
  • Hate it or Love it - if you Hate it; Change it - if you Love it; Keep going
  • Drive, Determination, Perseverance & Focus
  • See you at the top
  • Take life seriously
  • Pride, Determination & Resilience

And if your asking yourself, "Where do I come up with all this?" I just write down all the cool things I hear everywhere I go. Not only do I read them to myself when I need a jump-start -- I love sharing such simple thoughts with my closest friends of course - YOU HOOCHIES!! Or my new word in 2009 SESSY (which I stole word from our very own Myss Moxie aka Yasmine)

Defintion of SESSY - mix between Sexy & Classy HOLLA ;-)

So prepare yourself to check out Live Your Best Life (especially you daily bossip readers)! I hope it can be the change to get us going in the right direction and continue doing what we do best- SHINE!

I am inviting everyone I can think of to join us in our journey, but if you know other SESSY women in your life give me their info and I'll invite them into our world of FABULOSITY!!

Love you guys and can't wait to begin another year being the best!!

P.S. I'm new at this blogging thing so forgive me if things are a lil crazy in the beginning -- I'm gonna have to ask Yasmine how this bloggin thing works ;-)