Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other. They will engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. Value found in friendships is: the tendency to desire what is best for the other, honesty - perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth and mutual understanding.
Monday, July 6, 2009
"The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare & beautiful of all"
A wise African saying teaches that around every flower are insects. It's good to remember that you are like a flower and as you grow, the insects (haters and critics) will find you and try to make their home - you can't avoid it.
Our souls and goals flourish and bloom when planted in good soil enjoying lots of sunshine, water, fertilizer and care. Continue growing strong. Bloom where you are planted and constantly weed out the negative habits and negative people in your life."
An excerpt taken from Jewel Diamond Taylor www.donotgiveup.net
Friday, June 12, 2009
Bounce Back
1. springing back; rebounding,
2. returning to the original form or position after being bent, compressed, or stretched, or
3. recovering readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyant.
At some time in our lives we have all been stretched, stressed, and bent. During these times we may find it difficult to bounce back especially after divorce, unemployment, loss of a loved one, business slump, family drama, illness, or addiction. Do not succumb to these stressful times - DO NOT allow people or circumstances to steal your joy, health, faith, blessings, peace of mind or resiliency.
"I pray that God's great power will make you strong and that you will have joy as you wait and do not give up." ~ Colossians 1:11
Bounce Back - Juvenile
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Such a Slacker
Friday, April 3, 2009
Don't Be An April Fool !
The defintion of gullible is one easily duped or cheated. How often are we gullible to people, events or moments in our lives? How many of us find ourselves in situtations we know we shouldn't be involved with? Better yet, how many of us are gullible to the words of those we believe care about us and have our best interests at heart?
I know I have been guilty at some time or another of all these gullibilities (I think I just made-up a word) LOL! But there is no shame in my game; because I feel I have learned from many of my mishaps and work my hardest to make better choices from here on out.
Below is a message from my favorite motivational speaker, Jewel Diamond Taylor. The message below is about getting rid of negative (or gullible) things or people in your life. Please read it and think about the message. The time is definitely NOW for us to JUST DO IT and not be April Fool's!
Empty your mental trash can of any stressful or painful thoughts.
Don't allow the irritations and challenges of this day or your past to steal your joy.
Your success will come as you grow in courage, faith, discipline,
a sense of humor and a sense of purpose and strength.
Don't sweat the small stuff. I agree with Oprah's statement...
“Doing the best you can at this moment
Whenever you are ready ...you have the choice and power
Focus on your priority for this day.
Start giving thanks right now for the
Until further notice...God is in control."
~ Jewel Diamond Taylor~
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Getting Out of a Downward Spiral
I found myself getting in one of those sad girl desperado modes - nothing made sense and nothing was working out "the way it was supposed to." All I wanted to do was crawl home to my mommy's house (with Madison in tow), get in my full-size bed and call it a day. My thoughts drifted back to times of old when life was easy and simple. The days when all I had to worry about what was - NOTHING!
As I found myself playing "I'm Goin Down" by Mary J. Blige and really getting into it - I instantly caught myself and turned my ipod off. What was I doing - helping myself into a downward spiral? I couldn't believe I was allowing "stuff" to get to me - "stuff" which in the big scheme of life isn't really that bad.
So how did I get out of my downward spiral - I turned my attention to Madison and decided we needed to get out of the house and take a walk. A walk in the fresh air and only allow myself to focus on positive thoughts. So we did - I thought positive thoughts and talked to Madison about all of the blessings we have in our life. While I was walking I received an inspirational email and talk about perfect timing...
soon be a fowl smell. It's the same with your mind. If you don't release
old thoughts, your life becomes bitter with stinkin' thinkin' and emotional clutter.
Empty your mental trash can of any stressful or painful thoughts.
Don't allow the irritations and challenges of this day or your past to steal your joy.
Your success will come as you grow in courage, faith, discipline,
a sense of humor and a sense of purpose and strength.
Don't sweat the small stuff. I agree with Oprah's statement...
“Doing the best you can at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.”
Don't spend too much time with people who drain your energy.
Whenever you are ready ...you have the choice and power within to let go and grow in peace. Count your blessings. Change your point view. Each moment is a gift to you.
Focus on your priority for this day.
Start giving thanks right now for the wonderful breakthrough about to happen in your life.
That's right ...smile...sit up straight...shake off the heavy stress, speak
Until further notice...God is in control."
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Love Yourself & Love Life
Happy Valentine's Day!!!
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Nat'l Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day
#1 - Since I was a hot thang back in the day...I started requesting an HIV/AIDS test during my yearly pap smear.
#2 - Encourage my friends to get tested NOW! Let’s all become part of the “Test 1 Million” movement and be counted as 1 million African Americans tested for HIV by June 27, 2010. Find a local testing site at http://www.blackaids.org/and enter your zip code. “Knowing your HIV status can save your life, and every one of us has a responsibility to ourselves and our communities to know our status and to talk with our family members and loved ones about their status. AIDS in America today is a Black disease. Nobody wants to talk about that, and nobody wants to own that. That silence is killing us.” -Black AIDS Institute Executive Director & Founder Phill Wilson
#3 - During our juicy conversations I will now be the official “HI HATER!” on having unprotected sex with anyone before you see their current HIV/AIDS test results.
#4 - Pray that my closest peeps continue to be smart and safe during their “Sexy Can I” moments and don’t let any man talk you into doing something you already know “…you’d get talked about for…” ;-)
Friday, February 6, 2009
Morning Walks with Madi
As these questions pop in & out of my head I reflect on a book I'm re-reading by Jack Canfield (author of Chicken Soup for the Soul books) "The Success Principles - How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be." I say re-read because this is the 4th time I've picked up this book to assist me on my life's journey. During my morning walks I remember the things I've read the previous night and make my best attempt to apply it to all those questions I have floating in my head. My readings recently focused on life's PURPOSE (I'd like to share a few excerpts from my readings)...Without a purpose in life, it’s easy to get sidetracked on your life’s journey. It’s easy to wander and drift, accomplishing little. To be “on purpose” means you’re doing what you love to do, doing what you’re good at and accomplishing what’s important to you. Without purpose as your compass, your goals and plans may not fulfill you. You don’t want to get to the top of the ladder only to find out you had it leaning up against the wrong wall. Like most of our cars have a navigation system - we're born with an Inner GPS (global positioning system). For our Inner GPS system to work, it simply needs to know where you are and where you want to go. When you know what you want and stay focused; your Inner GPS will continue to unfold the turns to reach your destination.
“Decide upon your major definite purpose in life and then organize all your activities around it.” -Brian Tracy (One of America's leading authorities on the development of human potential & personal effectiveness)
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Our Superbowl I...Wifey vs. JumpOff
Growing up every girl has dreams of being “Wifey” and quickly looks down on the mere thought of being a “JumpOff.” Have you ever sat down and thought about what’s right for you - the life of a “Wifey” or that of a “JumpOff”? Living in a world of quick, fast and in a hurry – how do you steer clear from being labeled a “JumpOff”? Better yet - does living your life as a potential “Wifey” pay off in the end?
During my journey there were times and moments I could have easily chosen the “JumpOff” route. Of course everyone wants to be loved or be the center of attention, but at what price? There were times I could have went home with a dude who bought me drinks, grooved with me at the club, or showed some interest in me, but again at what cost? According to the Urban Dictionary the definition of a “JumpOff” is a female who is available anytime, anyplace and for anytype of sexual encounter. I’m sure we all know a jump-off, may have one in the crew or ourselves have dabbled in the world of jump-off-ness. Whatever your case maybe – it’s about that time to ix-nay the jump-off-ness in our lives! In order to stay clear of jump-off-ness it’s important to know what you want in life and how to get what you want in life without losing yourself in the process. Any female can sleep their way into someone’s life, but how are you honestly treated after the fact? Do you spend holidays with their families? Are you the one he spends his late nights talking you to sleep? Even worse are you the one he calls after he puts his potential “wifey” to sleep? Of course no one wants to admit teasing the world of a “JumpOff” but I had to sit down and really think about times I was on the brink of jump-off-ness and remind myself to stay far away from that world!
“Wifey” a woman you treat right, respect and feel good having her as your girl. A girl you care a lot about, a real lady and sexy in every way possible. My personal new definition of “wifey” is the “…if you like it then you shoulda’ put a ring on it…” girl in your life. And of course the ultimate post “wifey” is the one with the rock on her finger! For the most part I’ve always considered myself “Wifey” material. In the majority of my relationships – I’m always working an angle to be a post “Wifey.” Maybe why I’ve ran so many boys away HA HA! I was so frustrated with boys; there was even a point in my life where I thought marriage was unnecessary. I figured everyone cheats and why go through all that trouble just to flash on a negro cause he's acting stupid? Having Madison gave me a new outlook on the whole marriage thingy. I don’t think I’ll beat it in her brain or stress it too much, but I do want her to have healthy dating experiences and have the whole fairy tale romance when it’s her time. So in order to be a “wifey” I think it becomes imperative to steer clear of any “JumpOff” tendencies. Of course it can be exciting to gallivant around the world with random dudes, but you gotta ask yourself – what am I truly paying for this moment? I can’t say for sure, but my hypothesis would be the only thing your doing is making a name for yourself and a not-so-nice one at that for example: the cali- jumpoff, the down ass jumpoff or worse the down for whatever jumpoff. Is being associated as a “JumpOff” really worth the pipe, the 5-minutes of fame or the rush you get kicking it with these dudes? Is it worth losing yourself and waking up one day exposed to a sexually transmitted disease?
And of course our good ole’ Men do not make it any better – they say one thing and do the complete opposite! Men say they want to date a female with potential “Wifey” material and will only bring a potential “Wifey” home to meet their momma. Men talk bad about “JumpOffs,” disrespect them, treat them like a step-child and keep them at arm’s length when it comes to the important moments in their lives. So what is it? What do men really want? Is the “JumpOff” sex so good they can’t leave it alone? Do men hope their future “Wifey” will wait patiently while they poke every broad walking? How long is too long – when your waiting for a man to decide if your post “wifey” material? Of course no one has the answers to these questions so let the games continue…but what’s a girl to do?
So who’s your pick? “Wifey” vs. “JumpOff”????
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
The 5th C
My first time away from home I was introduced to a 5th C. When I met the 5th C - I didn't feel it was a priority, didn't take it seriously and didn't realize its potential impact on my future. Can you guess what the 5th C is? Here’s some hints: everyone has it, it may be good, bad or fair, it makes a big difference when making major purchases, it’s like your virginity (once it’s gone it’s gone forever), it can be hard to get back and it follows you wherever you go.
It’s your CREDIT our new 5th C!
CREDIT! Yes – I said CREDIT!
In recent years I’ve finally realized (even though I didn’t want to) how my choices or non-choices have affected my credit. I treated my credit like a step-child or better yet like a person I saw every day, but had NO feelings for! And now it’s time to make amends - as a matter of fact I’m making credit my new FDBD (freak daddy baby daddy). I’m going to treat my credit better than any man who’s crossed my love land. I’m going to love, cherish, make good memories, give rub-down/massages and do whatever I need to keep my CREDIT happy!
I have a new man, a secret lover, a FDBD, a ride or die boo - my CREDIT!“Lovely face, nice thick thighs. Plus she got drive that matches my
drive. Sexy thang. She’s McFly. All the while payin’ her bills on time.” –Neyo
“She’ll buy her own I don’t think she’ll never
look In a man’s face standing waiting for him to take care of her. She’ll rather
go to work and pay the bills on schedule.” –Webbie
I love you CREDIT! I will take care of you CREDIT! I will do my best to make our relationship what it was CREDIT!
Watch out world – COCO and CREDIT are the hottest new couple of 2009!
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Weight waits for No One



I'm telling you - I'm loving it!
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
A Part of History

A few more quotes from Barack Obama which require us to think about life & how to live your best life..
- We need to internalize this idea of excellence. Not many folks spend a lot of time trying to be excellent.
- If you're walking down the right path and you're willing to keep walking, eventually you'll make progress.
- We need to steer clear of this poverty of ambition, where people want to drive fancy cars and wear nice clothes and live in nice apartments but don't want to work hard to accomplish these things. Everyone should try to realize their full potential.
- It's not just enough to change the players. We've gotta change the game
Of course our lives will not miraculously evolve over night, but with a little hard work, focus & determination - the CHANGE we HOPE for is possible!
Monday, January 19, 2009
*sidenote*
While watching my favorite MTV Jams this video came on & it took me way back so of course I wanted to share with my SESSY's!
Jodeci - Come & Talk To Me (Remix) - Jodeci
I Need an Eraser!
A New Year is upon us,
fresh goals are being set;
But doubts and fears still linger
From past ones we haven’t met.
Erase away those doubts and fears
That you will not succeed.
Commitment and a positive attitude
are really all you need.
You have it in you to reach your goal
Of that I have no fear.
So “erase” those mistakes and look ahead
to a new beginning for a new year.
Please take an eraser
To help you create a clean slate.
Wipe away doubts, fears & failures,
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Here we go...
And US means all of US -- you, me and the rest of you hoochies! I know your thinking "...great Ally not one more thing to read while at work or home, but too bad -- YES IT IS -- one more thing to read!"
My hope for Live Your Best Life is a place where we can share our opinions, successes, hurts and all the juicy/non-juicy lives we live everyday. Though, most importantly in the end support one another as we each continue to LIVE OUR BEST LIFE.
2009 is our year...its our turn to do big things with our lives (indivudally, collectively and spiritually focusing on career, relationships, etc., )...
- Put God (or your higher being) 1st
- Demand more
- Think BIG
- Too Blessed Too be Stressed
- Decisions Determine Destiny
- Our money has got to grow up
- Keep Hustlin'
- Don't Just be the Best - be the Best Ever
- Hate it or Love it - if you Hate it; Change it - if you Love it; Keep going
- Drive, Determination, Perseverance & Focus
- See you at the top
- Take life seriously
- Pride, Determination & Resilience
And if your asking yourself, "Where do I come up with all this?" I just write down all the cool things I hear everywhere I go. Not only do I read them to myself when I need a jump-start -- I love sharing such simple thoughts with my closest friends of course - YOU HOOCHIES!! Or my new word in 2009 SESSY (which I stole word from our very own Myss Moxie aka Yasmine)
Defintion of SESSY - mix between Sexy & Classy HOLLA ;-)
So prepare yourself to check out Live Your Best Life (especially you daily bossip readers)! I hope it can be the change to get us going in the right direction and continue doing what we do best- SHINE!
I am inviting everyone I can think of to join us in our journey, but if you know other SESSY women in your life give me their info and I'll invite them into our world of FABULOSITY!!
Love you guys and can't wait to begin another year being the best!!
P.S. I'm new at this blogging thing so forgive me if things are a lil crazy in the beginning -- I'm gonna have to ask Yasmine how this bloggin thing works ;-)